“Death and life are in the power of the tongue…”
Proverbs 18:21 CSB
“Out of the same mouth we pour out words of
praise one minute and curses the next. My brothers and sister, this should
never be!” James 3:10 TPT
“Words of wisdom are like a fresh flowing brook—like
deep waters that spring forth from within, bubbling up inside the one with
understanding.” Proverbs 18:4 TPT
“Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul
and healthy for the body.” Proverbs 16:24 NLT
Yesterday I
picked up my husband’s old phone. Don’t ask me why, even I’m not sure the
answer to that. But I did. And as I scrolled through old texts—I mean old
texts, some from eight years ago!—I saw a name that took my breath away.
It was the
name of my son. A son we lost 6 ½ years ago in an accident.
Here,
tucked away, virtually hidden from the world were conversations from long ago.
I read with
tears in my eyes, and due to the nature of some of them, a smile and even
laughter.
And it hit
me.
Our words
outlive us.
Words
spoken, left in the memories of others.
Words on
paper, whether written for the eyes of others or us alone; like in a journal.
They
outlive us.
Long after
we have left this earth. Our words will live on.
Whether
they live on as words of encouragement, or otherwise, is up to us.
Kind of a
scary thought isn’t it? Sometimes, yes. But it doesn’t have to be.
It’s also,
kind of a comforting thought as well. Because when it comes right down to it,
don’t we all want to make a difference?
We live in
a world in which far too often people are striving to make a name for
themselves. To develop a platform, thinking that is how they will make a
difference—hear me carefully, there is nothing wrong with platform. The argument
often heard is, the bigger the platform the more people we reach. And yes, that
is true.
But what if,
in the striving to reach it, in the reaching it and so many others, we are
overlooking the ones right in front of us? The ones we rub shoulders with day to
day? The ones that God, in His sovereignty has placed right directly before and
around us? In the end, will the difference we make still be worth it?
Or.
What if our
“platforms” are bigger than we actually realize, and we are making a far more
significant impact and influence than we see, know, or understand?
Personally,
I think the truth of this last question applies to all of us, no matter where
or what our station in life is.
But today I
speak directly to the stay at home mom. The one just trying to survive another
day. The one who sometimes feels she has lost your identity, her purpose in
this hard (but rewarding in so many ways) life called motherhood.
I speak to
her, because I have been her.
You,
beautiful lady, have a platform.
You are
making a difference.
Your words
have power that shapes the next generation. What could possibly be more
important than that?!
So never
forget.
You matter.
You. Matter.
Your words
matter.
And even
though it feels at times, that nobody is listening—they are.
Do you know
how I know?
I remember
a conversation with my then 18-yr-old son and his younger sisters in which some
of the very words I had spoken to him over the years were coming out of his
mouth. Words I thought he had totally ignored, but obviously hadn’t.
In the
middle of the mundane, in the middle of the monotony, our words, whether spoken
to/over someone—such as our children, or spoken over ourselves—to ourselves, by
ourselves (yes, we all have that self-talk in our brains we aren’t always aware
of) have power. Influence. Make a difference. And matter.
And. Our words either spoken to others, or written, will outlive us.
So with
that in mind, what words are we speaking today? What motivation is behind them?
Will they bring death and wounds to the soul? Or will they bring life and healing?
Encouragement? Correction—with love?
The choice
is ours to make.
I know, in
my past, I have spoken words I regret. Words that have hurt. I won’t condemn myself,
and neither should you—for we can’t change the past.
But we can
change today. Right now. This very second when we are faced with the
frustration of the challenging, disobedient two-year-old: or the lippy, defiant
teenager, we can choose—words of life or words of death.
Will we be
perfect from now on? Never saying anything we shouldn’t?
Of course
not.
But as we
determine in our hearts to watch our words, and as we practice, and as we
apologize when necessary, and as we receive the forgiveness of the Father when
we mess up, and as we forgive ourselves, we will discover, over time, we are
speaking far more words of life than words of death.
Words spoken
with/in love–“Love never fails.” 1
Corinthians 13:8—these are words worthy of out-living us. Words we can go
to our graves grateful we’ve spoken. With no regrets. Words that just might
even bring blessings to those that come after because of the influence and
difference they’ve made in the lives of those who are with us, right now.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue…”
Proverbs 18:21 CSB
“Out of the same mouth we pour out words of
praise one minute and curses the next. My brothers and sister, this should
never be!” James 3:10 TPT
“Kind words are like honey—sweet to the soul
and healthy for the body.” Proverbs 16:24 NLT
“Words of wisdom are like a fresh flowing brook—like
deep waters that spring forth from within, bubbling up inside the one with
understanding.” Proverbs 18:4 TPT